I get super annoyed when people call women "girls." You don't call a grown man a "boy," do you? Yes, I overthink everything. Here are my thoughts on why and how to change how we talk about women.
Posted by Mayim Bialik on Donnerstag, 23. März 2017
“Big Bang Theory” star Mayim Bialik finally decided to speak her mind about those people who keeps calling grown women “girls.” She even highlighted on her Facebook video a caption,
“I get super annoyed when people call women “girls.” You don’t call a grown man a “boy,” do you? Yes, I overthink everything. Here are my thoughts on why and how to change how we talk about women.”
Mayim Bialik’s powerful video message, which she posted on her Facebook page on March 23, 2017, immediately accumulated more than 9.4 million views. In her video, she encourages people to think about language and how they use it when describing women. Bialik pointed out:
“When we use words to describe adult women that are typically used to describe children, it changes the way we view women — even unconsciously so that we don’t equate them with adult men,” she says. “In fact, it implies that they’re inferior to men.”
The actress also added;
Maybe if we start using language that elevates women and doesn’t equate them with sweet, small, cuddly, tender things, we’ll start treating them as more than that as well.
As soon as her video started spreading every news insider, social media pages, and people’s timelines, many have mixed opinions about it. Many seem not to care about the label by simply acknowledging it as an “expression” of calling someone.
Actually yes, we do indeed in certain circumstances call grown men “boy”. My husband talks about getting together with “the boys”, in the same way I might have a “girls night out”. You really are overthinking this.
Others, on the other hand, agree and elaborated as to why they agree. One of the people who watched the video states:
So to those of you who disagree with her and end your statement by calling her “girl”: You’re just proving the point.
To women who keep saying, “I love being called a girl! It makes me feel younger!”: We could have a conversation about why women feel like youth is the ultimate state, why they consistently lie about their age, why they have trouble being employed or even noticed if they don’t look like an 18-year-old and the inherent patriarchy-driven societal bias behind that, but suffice to say we should be proud of our age and all that comes with it: Experience, wisdom, and a better relationship with oneself and the world at large.
I would not trade my current stretch-mark laden, overweight, grey-hair sporting self for my 18-year-old self ever! While that girl may have been thin and attractive, she was naive and made mistakes that hurt people she loved because she didn’t know any better! Thankfully she got woke! (and keeps getting woke-r all the time!) I love my older, wiser, more intelligent, WOMANLY self!
There are a ton of reactions regarding the certain “women” being called “girls,” and I don’t think it will stop any time soon. But I do get the point about how women should be appropriately addressed. It does not sound correct to call a 30-year-old woman a “girl” or to call a 9-year-old little girl “young woman.” Please share this post with your friends on Facebook.